Everyone thinks you're fine.

Executive coaching for leaders in the middle of something hard.

Chris Poyzer, MSW

Founder, Cardinal Point Leadership

The Long Goodbye
What My Wife's Illness and Death Taught Me About Leadership

This isn't a leadership book that sits on a shelf. It's a decade of loving someone while losing her—and everything that taught me about presence, trust, resilience, and the conversations we're most afraid to have. Part memoir, part coaching playbook, The Long Goodbye weaves research-backed frameworks with the rawest moments of my life. Because the way we lead is shaped by the way we've lived. And our crucibles become our credentials.

From the Book

Sitting in that sunroom, it hit me. Not as panic, but as clarity: This was not going to be a single goodbye someday down the road. This was going to be a long one. At first, that realization felt cruel. Awaiting death can be gruesome and devastating. Watching loss unfold slowly can feel unbearable. I was scared — terrified — and I realized that there would be little chance for do-overs. Over time, I realized I had been given something rare: the chance to say goodbye every day, forever.

— from Chapter 1, "The Sunroom"

Every leader I coach has had some kind of crucible experience. Some have named it. Most haven't. But it's there — shaping how they respond to pressure, how they treat people, what they're afraid of, and what they're drawn to. The most successful leaders are those who've integrated their crucibles. Your crucible isn't something to hide. It's something to integrate. The scar tissue becomes your credential.

— from Chapter 3, "Crucibles of Leadership"

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More About Chris

My first wife Tania was diagnosed with Huntington's Disease early in our marriage. It was just the two of us. I became her caregiver — managing medications, sleepless nights, the slow losses that don't announce themselves — while showing up to work the next morning like everything was fine.

It wasn't fine. But I kept going. And somewhere in that decade, I learned something about leadership that no certification teaches: that the hardest thing you'll ever manage isn't a P&L or a team — it's yourself, when the ground shifts underneath you and no one knows what you're carrying.

I've spent 20 years in counseling, social work, and executive development — including time as the in-house Executive Coach at MarineMax. I now work exclusively with executives navigating crucibles — the kind of thing you don't bring up at the leadership offsite.

Chris holds an MSW from the University of St. Thomas in St. Paul, Minnesota, and is a Brain-Based Certified Coach through the NeuroLeadership Institute.

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What People Say

"Chris has been an invaluable sounding board. You will walk away a better leader — and probably a better person as well."

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"A unique blend of attributes that set him apart. Insights and guidance that are both pragmatic and transformative."

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